Living with purpose

I recently attended a memorial service for a good friend who was well respected. While it was a sad affair, there were moments of lightness and hope offered by the minister as he honoured the deceased. Here’s one of his phrases:

Death is a pain in the heart that no one can heal.
Love is a light in the heart that no one can steal.
Share that light so others may feel.
That legacy you leave is a lasting seal.
A life lived with purpose leaves a legacy that is real.

The words touched me profoundly. I started thinking about my own life, my journey, and the legacy I would leave. I contemplated my purpose, which since I was quite young, has been “to use my words and actions to inspire growth in others”. Not as a writer or an actor (neither of which I am), but in my normal life, through my musings, coaching, and interpersonal connections.

It’s common for people to search for their life’s purpose. But purpose isn’t necessarily something you find. It’s certainly not a job description, nor a lifetime achievement award. More often, it is something you create.

I think of “purpose” as being the “why” behind your actions. It’s the motive, built on your values, that sustains you through challenges, gives you a sense of direction, and makes you feel alive.

Finding your purpose is a journey of self-discovery. It means connecting to what you want to give to the world, rather than just taking from it. Your purpose acts as a filter, helping you to say “no” to things that don’t align with your values, and “yes” to things that matter. People with a strong sense of purpose tend to live longer, according to research.

To establish your purpose, think about moments in your life where you felt joy, pride or satisfaction because of your actions. What was the common thread? What specific activities made you feel fulfilled? What do you value most? What are your biggest strengths? Your purpose often converges on what you love to do, what you’re good at, and your values.

Purpose can change over time, reflecting your personal evolution through life. That’s a sign of growth!

For me, my purpose stems from faith, which is a powerful feeling. Faith is the genesis of hope, a pillar to hold on to in times of trouble or fear, or even thankfulness. It helps me with introspection, always striving to be a better human being. And to constantly measure myself up to my purpose.

What’s your purpose?

Email me: bernadette@gogettercoaching.com .